The Gut Check, for him.
A five-minute check on the man in your life.
Answer the questions the way you see him. You'll get a picture of how he's really doing under the surface, what it's costing him, and what actually helps.
For the people around them
You're the one who can see it. Here's where to start.
Three tools built for the person around the loss. Use one, use all three, use them in the order that fits what's in front of you right now.
What Do I Say?
Find the words when someone you love is upset.
Someone you love is upset, and everything you try makes it worse. Explain what's going on and get ideas on what to say, what never to say, and why. Then practice in private, not on the person you love.
Say the Hard Thing.
Build the words before you say them.
There's something you've been putting off saying, because you don't know how the other person will take it. Build it word for word, in your own voice, so it comes out right instead of coming out sideways. Then rehearse it until it's easy.
If something in your life is serious right now, for you or the person you love, the right next step is a real person: findahelpline.com, wherever you are in the world.